Bestworking posted:Yes beternnun, you are a drama queen.
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First of all, drama queen implies it’s a girlie thing. It’s not. Males and females alike are equally capable of requiring way more energy than a relationship with them is worth. Drama, being a close kin to high maintenance, may manifest itself in behaviors that look different across the continuum of masculinity to femininity, but make no mistake, drama kings are every bit as real as drama queens. So for the purposes of this piece, we’ll be talking, “drama persons.”
Drama persons thrive on attention, but that’s because they learned to feel invisible and unimportant. This is where the drama comes from. They are merely trying to convince themselves, by trying to convince you, that they matter. They are blind to the feelings of others and have failed to develop the coping skills necessary for an adult life. Call it arrested development, call it a failure to grow up and evolve, but underneath it all they have yet to outgrow (or dispel) whatever negative feelings they learned to believe about themselves. The sad part is that if their behavior weren’t such a turnoff, there would be plenty of reason to have compassion for them, which ironically is what they really need to heal their wounds and move one.
Whether it is from believing they were not loved, not good enough, not wanted or accepted, an internal narrative developed, almost always unconscious, that plays out when memories of those feelings are triggered and/or come to the surface. In that process they exhaust everyone in the present by replaying whatever story they are telling themselves from their pasts. And so they act out.
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Do all drama queens post material written by others without giving credit due? Or is that unsavory practice reserved for the use of harridans who also themselves happen to be drama queens? Is that part of a drama queen's desire to get attention, to gain recognition, and to convince others that they matter?