Bill,
Your reply was so long I didn't want to quote the whole thing again.
My cousin was born just as he is today. With a very feminine demeanor and a feeling that he should have been a girl. Whether you want to believe this or not is your right. However I can tell you that he had 2 other brothers one older and one younger that are not like him at all. We grew up on the same road and spent most of our time together. Nothing happened to him as a baby or otherwise that would have made him feel like a girl or want to be a girl. It was just so.
How do you explain hermaphrodites? What was god's plan for them?
I met a man a few years back that had a child born that had both sex organs. Surgery was performed very soon after birth. They choose for the child to grow up as a girl. I met her once and she was one of the biggest tomboys I had ever met. However she had already developed breast and looked very female. When she is old enough to marry if she marries a man will she be a homosexual? At birth she had the parts of both. If she forms a relationship with a woman is she a lesbian? What was your god thinking....?