all "spin-off" forums are on the same format! so, if being defensive means KNOWING beyond a shadow of a doubt that it can't be done..... i'll leave it at that! and i'm not a moderator on ANY forum anywhere! (at this time!)
(the simplest way to prove to you and your friend is this: go start your own forum. just the two of you. you can both be moderators and just test the software! it's free! problem solved... questions answered!)