Okay I'll begin with a disclaimer! We are not brought into this world knowing everything there is to know about relationships or most anything else. Most parents are just not even adequate in sharing information about things like that and then if they are it's usually disregarded account of the time difference and difference in society from when they were young and what is current. That said though there are some things that need to be retaught or at least relearned.
Tonight as I was having a late, fast food, dine at a local fast food establishment I noticed two College aged people, (boy/girl) dining together. Okay granted they may have just been friends and it would be judgmental to assume otherwise. Maybe they just came from Church and decided to get a meal together. Still from this at least one lesson can be imparted maybe two.
Lesson #1) Okay I'm being judgmental but the girl was a very lovely lady and any guy would be fortunate to have such eye candy in his list of potential girlfriends. BFF or not guys when you dine with a beautiful young lady how about offering to pay her meal because she deserves it? She's special and needs to feel that way and it's not a very expensive way to say hey your especial to me by buying two meximelts. She certainly was lovely enough to warrant having her meal bought just because of how lovely she was. As I said though it's possible they were just very good or maybe not so close friends and there was no potential love connection ever so maybe he didn't feel any reasons to pay for her meal along with his. Maybe he just couldn't afford it but then I see so many today that I know can afford it and yet put their woman, girlfriend, or friend's needs behind theirs. Guys it's time to show your potential friend, acquaintance just how special they are by offering to pay for them and treating them because they are special and allowing them to actually feel that way.
Lesson #2) While the first may not apply, depending on the nature of the relationship, the second surely applies in all situations. I observed the aftermath of seeing this young lady drop her key(s) down in the trashcan, accidentally, as she waited for her food. Okay don't know how she got the key in there but it never the less was. Again mind you the guy never offered to put his hand down in the trash bag to go fishing for the key but the store manager was quick to provide a set of plastic disposable gloves to the girl as well as helping her fish through the trash for the key and thankfully found it. No fishing for the key is not the lesson.
After eating their meal I happened to look over to their table and saw that both of them and left the restaurant and there trash all over the table where they had just been sitting. Why leave the trash? Yes some minimum wage restaurant employee will have something to do but both of you surely knew there was a trash can for at least one of you had your hands all down in the bag while the other stood over and watched. The excuse that you didn't know there was a trash can doesn't fly. Common courtesy would just dictate that you pick up after yourself when you are through and not make another clean up after you.
Okay I know there will be some detractors but hopefully not too many. What there are too many of are guys who, today, seem not to care about anyone but themselves and won't hit a lick at a snake. They want the girl to take care of them, buy them dinner or lunch and many times cause they don't have a job and can't afford it. Girls .... take a note! Most of you settle. Don't sell yourself short and feel you won't get anyone else. Sometimes it's the hard to get ones that cause the most desirability. There are such things as manners and times changing doesn't mean they go out of style. Chivalry is not dead either and goes a long way toward saying your special to me even if there is not a relationship there .... who knows there could be a budding one and it's a great way to say hey your special to me.
Okay off my soap box.