quote:Originally posted by CageTheElephant:quote:Originall posted by eastside:
yEven if she couldn't control the child -- she should have contacted DHR and exhausted all efforts stateside instead of just putting the child on a plane. Proof that not every person that has children should have children. Some people just aren't cut out to handle adopted or foster kids -- you have to be able to work with the child and the authorities and communicate and help the child -- the child comes first.
This was on the Morning News. There was some National expert on adoptions on, that said the DHR, nor any other Organizations would get involved in this, although she never said why.
DHR would have no choice but to get involved with this child if the mother had dropped the kid off an an emergency room with a note attached that said "I am a bad parent and can't control this child". If she was going to "abandon" the boy she could have done so in TN or even another state and not put the child on a plane to go across the pond. That was irresponsible. Just because a flight attendant says they will watch him or pay a man $200 to pick him up at the airport -- would you truly trust some people to do their part?
I get the child was hard to manage and that he had psychological issues, but she adopted the child -- he was hers -- he was her responsibility to take care of regardless of where he was born. There are better psych facilities here in the states that could have evaluated the child and helped her send him back -- her bottom line (in my opinion) was money -- and she didn't want to invest anymore in him than she already had. She had options -- she just chose the most ignorant of them all.
I agree that if Russia is sending 'problem children' to the US to desperate families then they should be monitored more closely, but this parent acted inappropriately and should be held responsible.