quote:Originally posted by Buttercup:quote:Originally posted by thenagel:quote:Originally posted by Buttercup:
thenagel,
Not trying to judge your parenting style, but if that's the case you didn't set limits early enough. You're telling me there's NOTHING that means anything to him, if it were to be taken away? I simply don't believe that.
With a young child it's toys and cartoons; with an older child it's cell phones, Internet, video games, cars, going out on weekends, etc. You're telling me your son has none of those things? Are you Amish? (kidding)
Seriously, he lives under your roof, so you can take his cell phone and car away, or his ability to go out Saturday night. Even if you have to take all of his "extras" away, he'll get the picture. Sorry, I just can't conceive of a young person with no "toys" of any kind that you can't control the use of.
But, again, sounds like the boundaries weren't set early enough. You can't wait until they're 10 or 12 to start setting them.
he was 5. and we'd had no trouble except when it came to cleaning his room. to him, that was a fate worse that death.
Hahaha! Yes, I'm aware. I think all children, especially boys for some reason, hate to clean their room.
For me, that's a "choose your battles" kind of situation. I've never made my son clean his room to perfection, with bed made daily, etc. As long as I don't trip on something and hurt myself as I walk through his room and the clean clothes are put away and the dirty at least near the basket, I'm generally okay with it. A perfectly kept room is simply not important.
we're well aware that one must pick their battles, and ended up having this one picked for us.
we weren't looking for perfection, we were looking for a path clean enough so that we could hang up his clothes. we didn't insist, or even hint, for spotless. we just wanted not-godawful.