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I never said this was appropriate workplace discipline. However, as a Christian, "spare the rod and spoil the child" was not a suggestion. It doesn't say to spare the rod from the child and do all you can to spoil the child. The verse implies that, without proper discipline, a child will go bad (spoil).
Here we go with the old "spare the rod and spoil the child" stuff. This is not a literal command - just like you can't take much of what the bible says literally - but that's a concept you don't comprehend. God meant for us to set boundaries and discipline our kids (discipline means "teach", not hit). You don't have to spank your kids and make them fear you to make them mind. I know this because I know way too many parents who have done it.
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You can post references to all the studies you want. I can post references to personal life experiences. It has been my experience that the worst-behaved children I've seen in my nearly 40 years of existence are the ones who have been spared the rod. My 6 year old is the best-behaved of all his cousins and is the one who receives proper discipline. The rest get "Now, so-and-so, don't do that. That's not nice. If you do it again. . ." over and over and over, until the situation escalates to a point where I've felt it necessary to say something. Then, some parent gets his/her feelings hurt because I had the stones to tell their brat to knock it off immediately or suffer. Guess what. . . The poor behavior was culled that instant.
Your six-year-old's cousins had no limits imposed on them, simple as that.
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You don't talk to kids like they're your friend when you're trying to enforce the rules. There's a time for being friends and there's a time for being a parent.
LOL! Show me where I've said on this thread, or any thread, that parents should be friends with their kids. Don't take the conversation in a new direction just because you can't argue a point.