Billy said:
My heart breaks for a few Forum Friends who have so much misery inside -- that, instead of discussing issues in an intelligent manner; all they want to do is to attack and denigrate a person, or a person's family
back in the 1960s, I had a friend who had many emotional problems caused by her childhood experiences. When I was in her home, it was always a mess.
I had an opportunity to talk with her therapist, and I asked him why everything around her was always such a mess. He told me, "Internally, her emotions are so cluttered and mess up -- she subconsciously tries to compensate for that by having her external world cluttered to match her internal feelings."
And, I am not saying that these few Forum Friends have psychological problems. But, something internally must be causing all the misery I see coming from them -- when they always seem to come to the Religion Forum in a personal attack mode.
The Religion Forum is a good community; a place where we all can expand, learn, and grow.
But, in our discussions we should NEVER strike out at another member, or a member's family, with personal insults and denigration.
People who do that, I am convinced, do it for one of two reasons: (1) they have internal emotional issues which they are venting toward others, or (2) they do not have the intelligence to participate in a civil, intelligent discussion. And, to be quite honest, I am not sure which of these reasons is worse -- but, they both tend to lead to personal attacks instead of civil dialogues.
For those few Friends, I forgive you -- and I pray that others who have been the target of your personal attacks will forgive you. But, I also ask you to reconsider, change, and become productive members of the forum family -- and not just destructive elements.
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A forum friend sent me the above rant & we’ve been discussing it. I’m going to reply to it because Billy chooses to leave himself out of his little rant to make it all about us. Which he so lovingly refers to as his friends!
Billy thinks we don’t discuss issues in an intelligent manner, that all we do is attack & denigrate a person, or a person's family, & that tells him we are miserable inside.
Billy, can you show me where anyone mentioned your name? Can you show me where it’s all about you? Or did you recognize yourself in what was said?
Shall I find the several post where you have so hatefully attacked & denigrated my friend vplee123? Are you so miserable inside that you had to do that, not once but many times? You even went so far as to accuse her & O No of not being Christians because they were my friends. Are we going to see the usual “prove it” from you? I can if that's what you need & wouldn't run as you have before when the proof has been shown.
If you don’t want your family discussed in these forums, don’t bring them here. Don’t tell us about how wonderful they are, what great Christians they are, about how much you love them. No one else on this forum does that but you. No one else on this forum is the braggart you are. No one else on this forum is as judgmental as you are, & no one else on this forum seems to be as mentally ill as you. If you don’t want your personal relationships/preferences known about, don’t tell it on a public forum. Anyone that would do that is very sick.
No matter if it was the 60’s or now, no therapist worth his salt is going to, or should, discuss a patients therapy with anyone, family member or a friend. If said therapist does, then his/her license should be revoked.Do you know just how stupid that statement sounds? What makes you so important that a therapist would discuss a patient's therapy with you??
I found your statement that emotional problems is the cause for someone’s house to be in a mess to funny. (another stupid statement) I have a cousin that always has a messy home. Nothing wrong with her but laziness, & she one of the happiest people you would ever meet.
You said this forum should be a place where we all can expand, learn, & grow. That in our discussions we should never strike out at another member with personal insults & denigration. Yet, you do it, daily, to anyone that disagrees with you.
According to you, that would mean you have internal emotional issues or you do not have the intelligence to participate in civil, intelligent discussions. I’ve seen you, many times, attack & put other down, make fun of them instead of having a civil dialogue. I think you recognize these things in yourself but it makes you feel good to reverse it onto other people.
You say you’re not saying that any of your forum “Friends” have psychological problems. I can’t say that about you. In fact, many of us have told you that you have psychological issues. Anyone that would call the people that dislikes him, his Friends, has major issues/problems. Your NPD is very apparent. If you haven’t gotten medical help yet, you should.
As for me, I didn’t ask for or even need your forgiveness.You should seriously consider seeing a medical professional. Your illness is showing itself more every day.
You should reconsider, change, & become a productive member of this forum. We get tired of your constant destructive elements.