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So I am looking at starting to date again and I have seriously been hounded by some of my friends to try out EHarmony or Match.com
I am almost a little put off by everyone telling me to go to the dating websites. I mean seriously, am I not good enough to find a man on my own?

So anyway, I would like to know if anyone has ever tried EHarmony or Match.com
Do they work? Do you believe that they could work?

And then lastly...any suitable men reading and/or commenting on this forum then definately let someone know. HA!
Life is what we make it, always has been, always will be.
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I had a guy friend that met his wife on Eharmony. The first few months were bliss. They eventually married and less than a a year later (from their marriage -- 2 years from their meeting) -- they are divorced. Now it makes him sick to even see the ads on TV...

I think it's a great way to meet people to go out with -- especially in this town -- but keep your expectations in check so that you don't assume you will find your soul-mate...that may never happen...
it is a great way to meet people, but its also a great way to meet serial killers! ha, joking, but no seriously it is. i fiddled around with it slightly before i met my wife the natural way at the big spring jam where we hit it off, but never got too serious with it. some of the best places to meet people are at the places you go to daily believe it or not. whether it be while shopping or at the park with your dog, or out with friends. at least thats how it was with me.
I met my wife online and she is the most amazing woman that walks this earth. It wasn't EHarmony, but on AOL. With that said, you need to look at the online dating as you would any other avenue. WITH CAUTION. Think of it this way, would you go to a club/bar and go out with anyone that asks? Nor should you from the online community. Sometimes meeting online and talking can help you decide first if you want to meet them before putting yourself at risk. Thomaswayne is right when he said meeting people at places you go everyday, but sometimes you have to expand your activities if that isn't working like online sites, clubs or special meetings like the backgammon club, or the quilting club. Find something you like and go enjoy it and someone will come alone that you like eventually. If you go out to find your soul mate, you will be disappointed most of the time of the looser you may get.
I agree with Schnauzer. Proceed with caution. I have a friend who met her husband online and they have been happily married for 7 or 8 years now. On the other hand I have another friend who met a guy online and made the stupid mistake of flying to Texas to meet him just to learn the hard lesson that not everybody online tells the truth about their looks. YIKES!! So, if you decide to pursue the online dating thing then as a backup plan I would follow WIPs advice as well and see who you know that may know someone that is available.
I met my wife online, I also know several couples who met online as well.

For some reason there is a stigma attached to dating websites. There is absolutely nothing wrong with it.

Think about it. You can find a group of people with the criteria you are looking for, weed out the ones that don't work, and all before the first actual date. It just makes sense.
It would be nice if it turned out the way it does on the commericials. That always looks like they have found the perfect match. I would be leary of it also. If someone instant messaged me in a chat room, it would scare me. I am just afraid of strangers. Even people you think you know can turn out to be nothing like you had them figured. There is the thing about first impressions, that really doesn't mean anything sometimes it takes a while for someone to show their true colors.
I think E-harmony has a free weekend coming up.
My ex met his current wife on e-harmony and they married last winter. One of my sisters met her husband through the personal column that use to run in the TD paper.
I see nothing wrong with meeting someone that way, but you need to be cautios and realistic.
I met a man through yahoo 8 years ago and although we've never dated (he lives in Montgomery) we have become very good friends. So, even if you don't find romance, be open to a nice friendship. Who knows? the friend may know someone just right for you.
Not joking, forget the internet sites, classifieds and well meaning friends, instead just go shopping at Sam's Club or Wal Mart, you will be approached. Someone will ask you about a product or some equally comfortable opener and conversation ensues...you're own your on from there. If you are not approached, consider a make over.
I, too, think online sites can be a good way to meet people but be very cautious. If you want an idea of what can happen if you're not careful read Psycotic Letters from Men. http://psychoticlettersfrommen.blogspot.com/

Warning: The site can be a bit ...errrr... colorful in it's language. It's not for kids to read and you probably shouldn't read it at work. But it is very, very funny! And the comments are great.

Edited to say the site isn't all about dating sites but it does have a fair # of stories about them.

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