I am in serious need of advice from you guys. My husband and I will be married 6 years this September. When we discussed getting married, we also discussed combining our belongings as well as our finances. I had lived with my dad for several years and had always paid my way there; feeling that he raised me & my sister and paid our way through college so now it was my time to help him. I paid my own bills and I helped with the household bills. When my husband & I married: I moved into his home that he already had. His 28 year old daughter also lives with us. Here is the problem.
We have separate bank accounts, I know nothing about his financial situation, I know nothing about his cancer and life insurance policies. His daughter is “in charge” of all of this so to speak. She is listed on his bank account, on his insurance policies and on his home. Within one month of marrying the man of my dreams, I had taken my dad and sister’s name off of my bank accounts (to add his) and listed him as the beneficiary on my insurance policies. My name is on nothing and when I tried asking why he is determined not to add my name on everything I am accused that this is the “only reason I married him”. I am so hurt that he feels this way. I have just always felt that if I contribute to help paying for everything I should have interest in it as well. I really think that if something were to happen to him today, I would be out! The daughter would take over everything. I love my husband and his daughter very much; I feel I am being left out for a reason. My question to you is where do I go from here? Do I deal with it and hope I am wrong? Or do I run like hell and start my life over? HELP!