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I am leaving this forum.

ADMIN is not doing their job.

I have been threatened on here.

I have been slandered on here.

I have been accused of things that are not true, by people who do not know me, sake this forum.

The forum has gotten out of control.

Until ADMIN cleans it up, and some folks on here are banned from the forum, I am not coming back to waste my time.

I have other things better to do, some of it in the future could mean life and death.

FYI: This is MY decision alone. No one has ran me off. I just don't like to associate nor congregate with slanderous individuals, nor those who are out to "get" someone.
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I am leaving this forum.

ADMIN is not doing their job.

I have been threatened on here.

I have been slandered on here.

I have been accused of things that are not true, by people who do not know me, sake this forum.

The forum has gotten out of control.

Until ADMIN cleans it up, and some folks on here are banned from the forum, I am not coming back to waste my time.

I have other things better to do, some of it in the future could mean life and death.

FYI: This is MY decision alone. No one has ran me off. I just don't like to associate nor congregate with slanderous individuals, nor those who are out to "get" someone.



something I learned long ago...words only mean what you let them mean. When someone starts badmouthing me...I know I have just gained their respect. I have become important enough to them that they must try to dominate me.
Human psychology...
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Originally posted by Brentenman:
I am leaving this forum.

ADMIN is not doing their job.

I have been threatened on here.

I have been slandered on here.

I have been accused of things that are not true, by people who do not know me, sake this forum.

The forum has gotten out of control.

Until ADMIN cleans it up, and some folks on here are banned from the forum, I am not coming back to waste my time.

I have other things better to do, some of it in the future could mean life and death.

FYI: This is MY decision alone. No one has ran me off. I just don't like to associate nor congregate with slanderous individuals, nor those who are out to "get" someone.
Brentenman please send me your own message so I can contact you. You have been %^$% over sure be caucause you belive in the USA but being from upper Greenhill we have a lot in common. I want to keep in touch.
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Brenten, I must have missed what happened, but you shouldn't leave. I don't know what was said, but leaving would just let whomever it was, win.

I have been there before on the site I admin. for, and it's not fun to be criticized, much less being demeaned for your opinion.

I agree that the admins here work sooo much differently than we do at our site, they really should be keeping an eye at this place more. We have 60,000 members, and 33 admins, and nothing demeaning is left up for more than 10 minutes at the site I volunteer for (I don't even get paid.)

What I tell the members that get frustrated, when something happens behind the scenes, is, "if you can't ignore it, or are going to blow a gasket, take a few days away from the site. Just reassess what is going on, and after a few days away, you might feel better."

I know that's easier said than done, when you have someone always harping on you, though. But I have seen you reply here, you make a part of this site just as much as anyone else here. Whether someone agrees or disagrees with you, doesn't make your points invalid. Just take a few days and lurk if you have to, but I'm sure your friends here don't want you to leave forever.

I don't know you well, but my mother has spoken about you and it's always been wonderful things. Don't let some stranger hiding behind anonymity get you down, or angry. Don't give them that kind of satisfaction, because that's what people with low self esteem feed off of. They are attention mongers, and any attention, positive or negative that they can get, makes them feel special.

I know I wouldn't do it, I'd just ignore it.

Either way, I really hope that you do one day return to this site, so that maybe I can get to know you. If not though, I wish you much luck in your journey of life, and hope that only the best comes your way.

~Manda~
I'm sorry, but this whole thread is becoming a farce. BM is a big boy. He can take care of himself. Why coddle him? If he's grown enough to be an active soldier in this war, he sure as heck doesn't need you folks to hug his neck and tell him it's going to be okay to stay here because nobody on these forums can hurt him. He's a grown man. It's up to him to stay or go. Why pander? He's not a 5-year-old that wants chicken soup to feel better. He's an adult, and he can make the decision he wants.
Because E, That is who I am.. I am one of those rare people that does care when someone is bruised. Maybe you don't have compassion for others, and what the heck makes you right anyways? lol

We all realize that Brenten is a grown man. No one has said differently, but sometimes even grown men need to see that they are worth something, when they are upset, angry or sad. You may not like it, but heh, I don't care. Smiler

If he still wants to leave that is cool.. And btw, it's actually not coddling, it's more of unsolicited advice. Smiler

~Manda~
Because I don't care what went down. In a general objective manner, it doesn't really matter. Someone is leaving, and wouldn't have posted if not need advice or closure.

In the end, we are all human, we all screw up, so whatever happened doesn't really rank that high on what matters to me. Smiler

Thing is, I have read some things that he has said that I don't personally agree with. But then I think, as I put myself in his shoes, he's a soldier and with that I can only imagine how that messes with you and how it changes one's opinions.

I try never to let what someone says on here affect my overall opinion on them. Mom says I am wise beyond my years when it comes to that. I'm not sure.

I just feel it really stinks to see all these people that are probably much older than me, act much younger than me, just because there is anonymity. When I do reply to things, I think them out, and even if it's personally insulting, I take it with a grain of salt. *shrugs*

Then again, I don't expect people to be like me(It'd be kinda boring if everyone were). It's just something interesting I have noticed that seems to be the norm here. Smiler It makes for interesting drama though sometimes. lol

~Manda~
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Originally posted by EdEKit:
HEROES DON'T SURRENDER


Brentenman,
You are correct, this forum is out of control.
I personally thank you for your service to this country and your honesty and common sense used.

Edekit - I SURE HOPE you have served your country before making such a demeaning statement as quoted above.
If "Heroes don't surrender" then where does that leave your precious, left-leaning politicians?

Some people are educated above their ability to reason with common sense and some people are just not educated. I haven't yet figured out which of these fits some of you lefties.
Hey friend... if you leave, they win, and I KNOW you better than that!!!! You are one of the "backbones" of this forum... We go back to the OLD forum together, and you need to stay just so YOU win and THEY don't...

You, your personna, and your intelligence IS needed here...

I am begging you to stay!!!! I know what you are made of, and I know you mean well, and I know that you ARE one of our heroes!!!!

Please stay!!!!
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Originally posted by imho:
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Originally posted by EdEKit:
HEROES DON'T SURRENDER


Brentenman,
You are correct, this forum is out of control.
I personally thank you for your service to this country and your honesty and common sense used.

Edekit - I SURE HOPE you have served your country before making such a demeaning statement as quoted above.
If "Heroes don't surrender" then where does that leave your precious, left-leaning politicians?

Some people are educated above their ability to reason with common sense and some people are just not educated. I haven't yet figured out which of these fits some of you lefties.


IMHO... you said it better than me!!! B'man has intelligence far above mine, that is for sure, and this forum needs him, they just don't realize how much...

Brentenman, you are NOT one to give up, you ARE one to recognize the ignorance and stupidity and put those people ON IGNORE... believe me, as we discussed, it sure has helped me!!!
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Originally posted by Brentenman:
I am leaving this forum.

ADMIN is not doing their job.

I have been threatened on here.

I have been slandered on here.

I have been accused of things that are not true, by people who do not know me, sake this forum.

The forum has gotten out of control.

Until ADMIN cleans it up, and some folks on here are banned from the forum, I am not coming back to waste my time.

I have other things better to do, some of it in the future could mean life and death.

FYI: This is MY decision alone. No one has ran me off. I just don't like to associate nor congregate with slanderous individuals, nor those who are out to "get" someone.


ONE person monitoring this forum just is NOT enough, this forum should be handled like the other one I go to, and they have SEVERAL Admins to keep the peace... that is what Admins are supposed to do... You are correct, the Admin has too much to do here to keep the TROLLS and SLIMEBAGS at a controllable level.... They need help!!!

BUT, until they GET it, we have a beautiful feature called IGNORE... it does work, I only see a couple of BAITING comments from my IGNORE list because people include them on their comments...

There is actually WAR on this forum, but the ONLY reason for that is these people ENJOY hurting other people, and they cannot and should not be allowed to win!!!!

Please dont go!!!!
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Originally posted by yankeewitch:
Brentenman,

I know I am one of the guilty here, but I am sorry. If everyone agreed with everyone else this whole forum would look like this-Right, I agree with you.(over and over and over again)

As for the "Heroes don't surrender"comment. No they don't surrender, but they sometimes retreat to come back stronger.


Well said, YW!!! I totally agree with your comment here... he will come back to us stronger... he just needs a break.
Ahh, Forchange, I'm sorry to disappoint you, but it's obvious that you are someone else under this personna just so that you can spit venom. Otherwise you wouldn't "appear" when you want to insult others.

That's called a character flaw to me, if you really wanted to let others know your true colors, you wouldn't hide behind another username. So therefore, you have no right to sling mud.

But just this once I'll entertain you, for the mere reason to show you how juvenile it is. As for replying to everything, that I do not do. Go look at some of the posts here about politics and religion, you wont see my name on the majority of them, as I usually don't comment to very much here. I lurk while doing my admin. duties at USM. Smiler

I have noticed a trend here, that some people just like to be facetious, in order to make themselves look or feel better. When it comes to some of us, we don't really give a rat's donkey what other's think or feel about them. I don't reply here to be popular. I've already got that at the site I do go to often, and if I were to give you the link to over there, you would see that I am the same at both places.

So, those of you that feed off the "bad apple" personna, can keep on doing it, because as I've said several time, in the end it only makes you look bad, not I. Smiler

~Manda~
Ladies and Gentlemen,
Is it just me? Or is it quite strange to find folks on a local newspaper forum (literally) begging others to "please stay"? If we exclude personalities here, what we find is one adult who has announced the decision to no longer participate in these forums. That, in itself, seemed a little unusual - but I suppose one could simply want others to know that all is well and have that closure. Fair enough. I can also imagine why there might be people who, rightly or wrongly, feel that harm was done and who publically apologize for their own contributions.

But for the life of me, I don't understand why anyone here would beg another to stay. It simply doesn't add up to me. Sure, everyone has a right to beg others to stay or go until the cows come home. Yet, frankly, it seems like an odd reaction to me. Am I the only one? If I am, I'll live with that.

I wish you all well. And remember, there is always the option of personal PMs (or e-mails, if you're brave) to stay connected with those who make their own decision as adults to discontinue direct contact here. I really do understand that some develop friendships with others, yet can't those can be continued outside of and beyond the postings here? I enjoy reading everyone's comments, but if you go I will simply wish you well once again. Life will go on, and those waves will keep hitting the shore.
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A very astute observation. Seems like an extension of the "Stockholm Syndrome". Much more complicated than what is possible for discussion here though I fear. Seperation anxiety is another explanation. There are so many that have no real connection in their everyday lives that the "family" aura found on some boards are just an extention and perhaps substitution for their lack in reality. Good thought.

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