Javier, how's things going?
I'm hanging in there. I got thru this weekend without calling her. I bet she was suprised not to hear from me.
I've been working a lot and told my boss to give me all the hours I can get. My sister told me to stay busy and not try not to think about it so that is what I've been trying to do.
If things stay the same I'm going to call a lawyer soon.
I've been working a lot and told my boss to give me all the hours I can get. My sister told me to stay busy and not try not to think about it so that is what I've been trying to do.
If things stay the same I'm going to call a lawyer soon.
Javier, I have been doing a lot of thinking. Do you think that deep down your wife is searching for her daddy? This can cause a lot of problems as has previously been noted on the forum.
No she gets along okay with her dad. He doesn't like the way she is doing but he don't say much to her about it.
Javier, something
you said early on really struck me:
I'm really sad to hear that this is how you feel. Her looks don't have amount to a hill of beans, because what matters is that she's not pretty at all on the inside. You have been patient, loving, and devoted. How can she possibly hope for "better" than what you've given?
Those who know me may snicker a bit to see me give advice on low self-esteem, but since I'm acutely aware of how it makes you feel, I may be able to say things in a way that'll make sense to you. So, here goes...
No matter how attractive she is, this woman is not "better" than you, nor does she *deserve* "better" than you. It's very difficult - trust me, I know - to feel very worthwhile when you think the person you adore most doesn't want you. You begin to think things like, "Well, I don't know what she was doing with me, anyway" and "She can do better" and "I don't deserve her." This is all a lie that we tell ourselves, and the problem is, it's very easy to believe. And once we buy in to the lie, it begins to take over. Since we feel we don't deserve to be treated with love and respect, we don't expect it. And if we don't expect it, we surely won't demand it.
The simple truth is, everyone deserves to be treated with love and respect in a relationship, and if she has not done so, it's she who does not deserve you.
you said early on really struck me:
quote:Originally posted by Javier:
She is a lot better looking than me and I know she can do better
I'm really sad to hear that this is how you feel. Her looks don't have amount to a hill of beans, because what matters is that she's not pretty at all on the inside. You have been patient, loving, and devoted. How can she possibly hope for "better" than what you've given?
Those who know me may snicker a bit to see me give advice on low self-esteem, but since I'm acutely aware of how it makes you feel, I may be able to say things in a way that'll make sense to you. So, here goes...
No matter how attractive she is, this woman is not "better" than you, nor does she *deserve* "better" than you. It's very difficult - trust me, I know - to feel very worthwhile when you think the person you adore most doesn't want you. You begin to think things like, "Well, I don't know what she was doing with me, anyway" and "She can do better" and "I don't deserve her." This is all a lie that we tell ourselves, and the problem is, it's very easy to believe. And once we buy in to the lie, it begins to take over. Since we feel we don't deserve to be treated with love and respect, we don't expect it. And if we don't expect it, we surely won't demand it.
The simple truth is, everyone deserves to be treated with love and respect in a relationship, and if she has not done so, it's she who does not deserve you.
I ditto Ed.
quote:Originally posted by earthmomma:
Javier, I have been doing a lot of thinking. Do you think that deep down your wife is searching for her daddy? This can cause a lot of problems as has previously been noted on the forum.
Why would searching for her Dad cause her to cheat on her husband?
Javier...
By your post I would say you are the weakess backboned,most P---- wiped wimp, I have ever seen to post....
Get your pole boy and go fishing, there are more fish in the pond....from the sound of it, you probably like being spanked when you have been a badddddddd boy...
At like a man for once in your life...
By your post I would say you are the weakess backboned,most P---- wiped wimp, I have ever seen to post....
Get your pole boy and go fishing, there are more fish in the pond....from the sound of it, you probably like being spanked when you have been a badddddddd boy...
At like a man for once in your life...
um, trader, you been hacked? That doesn't sound like you?
Amen, Ed...could not agree more. Hang in there, Javier. Fill your life with as much positive as possible. If you like work, work is good. Find ways to do for others...random acts of kindness or planned acts of kindness. Be with supportive family and friends. Your sister sounds like she is there for you. Vent here any time.
Amen, Ed...could not agree more. Hang in there, Javier. Fill your life with as much positive as possible. If you like work, work is good. Find ways to do for others...random acts of kindness or planned acts of kindness. Be with supportive family and friends. Your sister sounds like she is there for you. Vent here any time.
I agree with the pink mustang posts. I think Javier is full of crap and his entire thread is a bunch of bull-lo-nee. If not, you're not doing yourself any favors Javier by getting on here and posting repeatedly what a door mat you are.
I agree with you I made a mistake coming here.
Oh, that's lovely, Mrs. J.
Judging from past experience here at TD, when there are several posts that are completely irrational, it means one of two things...an incoming trollfest or there is something going on behind the scenes that I don't know and don't want to know.
Judging from past experience here at TD, when there are several posts that are completely irrational, it means one of two things...an incoming trollfest or there is something going on behind the scenes that I don't know and don't want to know.
Ignore them, Javier...it takes a very small person to belittle and their opinion carries little weight...puns intended.
Joy...
You are right ...I was wrong in saying what I did...
I just get fed up with the whining of someone who acts like they can't be happy without someone to make them happy...Happiness comes from within...not from being obsessed with another person...
You are right ...I was wrong in saying what I did...
I just get fed up with the whining of someone who acts like they can't be happy without someone to make them happy...Happiness comes from within...not from being obsessed with another person...
quote:Originally posted by earthmomma:
Javier, I have been doing a lot of thinking. Do you think that deep down your wife is searching for her daddy? This can cause a lot of problems as has previously been noted on the forum.
Like maybe she's adopted and all she knows is her daddy's from Florence? RIFLOL
quote:Originally posted by Javier:
I'm hanging in there. I got thru this weekend without calling her. I bet she was suprised not to hear from me.
I've been working a lot and told my boss to give me all the hours I can get. My sister told me to stay busy and not try not to think about it so that is what I've been trying to do.
If things stay the same I'm going to call a lawyer soon.
Good to hear you are trying to stay busy. I would not wait till later to speak to a lawyer, you can always tell an attorney that you changed your mind later but it is good to get good legal advice from the start especially if kids are involved.
quote:Originally posted by BFred07:
it is good to get good legal advice from the start especially if kids are involved.
If you'll read his first post, you'll see he doesn't have children.
Hope you have a good week-end, Javier.... without any contact with her.
the reason she said she has had enough and wants you to move out is because she has ran out of places to sleep with the (probably married) guy she is seeing behind your back. and she wants to do it in your home because its less likely he would get caught. women are evil like that... trust me i know from experience i have yet to meet a 100% honest/Loyal female companion . sorry to sound so harsh but im just being blunt
quote:Originally posted by Homer Jim Billy Bob:
women are evil like that... trust me i know from experience i have yet to meet a 100% honest/Loyal female companion . sorry to sound so harsh but im just being blunt
Evidently you're looking in the wrong places.
thats why i stopped looking a long time ago there are no right places anymore
HJBB, it is not that women do not like you- they just cannot remmber all your names!
earthmama you are a hoot
well i have 3 more to that its actually Homer Jim Billy Bob Jebediah Isiah Henry Smith thats my full name
if you only knew, see this makes you a troll for downing everyone like this
quote:Originally posted by Homer Jim Billy Bob:
if you only knew, see this makes you a troll for downing everyone like this
Yeah, cuz there's a lot of people like this.
Good one.
Now go upstairs and ask your mother if she misses me.
quote:Originally posted by semiannualchick:quote:Originally posted by Homer Jim Billy Bob:
women are evil like that... trust me i know from experience i have yet to meet a 100% honest/Loyal female companion . sorry to sound so harsh but im just being blunt
Evidently you're looking in the wrong places.
I suggest a female golden retriever for Homer Jim Billy Bob for an honest,loyal female companion. Their hair would match, too!
quote:Originally posted by Homer Jim Billy Bob:
well i have 3 more to that its actually Homer Jim Billy Bob Jebediah Isiah Henry Smith thats my full name
What? No "Earl" in your name? You're obviously a fake.
quote:Originally posted by lynnblount:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by Homer Jim Billy Bob:
well i have 3 more to that its actually Homer Jim Billy Bob Jebediah Isiah Henry Smith thats my full name
What? No "Earl" in your name? You're obviously a fake. [/QUOTE Got to be fake Lynn with no Earl or Wayne in his name.
OK I can not resist any longer. Javier the best way to get over a woman is to get under one! Now make that your priority. It may not fix things but it will make you feel better.
quote:Originally posted by Homer Jim Billy Bob:
the reason she said she has had enough and wants you to move out is because she has ran out of places to sleep with the (probably married) guy she is seeing behind your back. and she wants to do it in your home because its less likely he would get caught. women are evil like that... trust me i know from experience i have yet to meet a 100% honest/Loyal female companion . sorry to sound so harsh but im just being blunt
Yeah most women don't stay with men who have miniature dicks like yourself. You are a card carrying, wic cheese eating, loser.
Now go get you a gas station burger.
quote:Originally posted by Woodrat:
Yeah most women don't stay with men who have miniature dicks like yourself. You are a card carrying, wic cheese eating, loser.
Now go get you a gas station burger.
Hey, don't be bringing WIC cheese (or bad language)into this.... lots of women buy food through the WIC (Women, Infants, Children) program. No need to bring any mention of innocent infants and children into this conversation.
sic 'em Calypso!
Javier, how's it goin?
Let's just bury and forget this farce.
quote:Originally posted by earthmomma:
Let's just bury and forget this farce.
Farce? You don't believe him?
Some of us believe that Javier is riding around in a pink Mustang looking for his daddy. I am now going to take my own advice!
Then some of you are wrong or crazy. And after reading some of the stuff on here this week I think I have come upon a bunch of crazy people with you being at the top of the list.
.....Earthmomma is far fromm crazy Javier. You may be the one who has problems. You started this....remember??quote:Originally posted by Javier:
Then some of you are wrong or crazy. And after reading some of the stuff on here this week I think I have come upon a bunch of crazy people with you being at the top of the list.
quote:Originally posted by Javier:
Then some of you are wrong or crazy. And after reading some of the stuff on here this week I think I have come upon a bunch of crazy people with you being at the top of the list.
You may be for real, but I cannot imagine anyone telling their personal problems on this carnival of trolls unless they was making it up.
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