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Two problems: First- my stepdaughter is engaged to a guy that I think may have a "hidden" past. He is 30, still lives at home with Mom and Dad, and does not have a driver's license. My stepdaughter once said he had a wreck and someone was killed and his license was pulled and he has just never bothered getting them back (which sounds kind of odd to me). She didn't say "He was INVOLVED in a car wreck where someone was killed" but that "He HAD a car wreck where someone was killed". I'm wondering if he perhaps caused the wreck (maybe driving under the influence) and served time in prison for this and now cannot not get a driver's license. Does anyone know if that is a stipulation of parole for someone convicted of vehicular manslaughter or something along those lines?

Problem #2: My husband and I moved out of Florence and had an older car in our yard that needed some work. The transmission was messed up. We were still paying on the car and when we moved, the stepdaughter's fiance' said he would take the car to his house until we had room to store it at our new home (the previous owners at the new house had 3 old autos we had to dispose of and it took a bit of time to do it). Fiance' made the comment about maybe working on it and letting our stepdaughter drive it if he could get it running, which my husband said was okay. Well, we are having some financial problems and when the bank asked about the car, we called the fiance'. He won't answer our calls and the stepdaughter says she doesn't know anything about it, but that it is not at his house now. Another relative of my husband's said the stepdaughter told them the fiance' put the car on the side of the road a few miles from the fiance's house and the city took it as an abandoned vehicle. Now the bank wants us to come up with the car and we have no idea where it is. We let the fiance' take it (not knowing about his character <see previous problem) with the understanding he would store it for us or fix it up for the stepdaughter to drive. Now it's gone, he won't talk to us and the stepdaughter has lied to us about not knowing where it it is. Any suggestions about what we can do legally about this? My husband wants the man to pay for the car if he has done something with it without our knowledge, but we aren't sure what legal ground we have to stand on.
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If he was involved in a fatality wreck and was charges in some way then, yes, one stipulation could be to never be able to obtain a license again.
Second problem, check the two towing companies use by the city of Florence for impounds, Horne & Simpsons Wrecker. If one of these two do not have the car then you can file theft of property charges against the "fiance".
FLO50 has you going in the right directions with the wrecker companies. You may want to check with some of the local auto repair locations and see if that car is there because he could have one of these wrecker companies tow it to a repair center and told the owner that he was short on money and could pay him later if he fixed it and held it there.
Just be honest when you call these places and say that your step daughters car broke down and her boyfriend had it towed there and her name is this and the car is a certain color and model.
Also call the Florence Police dept Investigation office, 760-6500 ask for investigation and explain to them what is going on you want to see if they have any "involvements" on this person. They can give free advice and on costs the call to them.
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Originally posted by Stinky Inc.:
I would also go to the Circuit Court Clerk's Office and check his name on their public access computer. It's a state wide search, but if his past involves another state, you may need some additional assistance.


This is a good way to go, if he has a criminal record, then it's public knowlege and you can get the court details.
Calling the wrecker service is dead on, either Gerald Horne has it or Gary Simpson. If they don't, file a stolen vehicle report.
Pipl.com provides a lot of information that is hard to find on other search engines. It includes social network pages, public criminal pages, and property tax records (which will probably not help you in this case). Make sure you do a search from any previous states where he may have lived.

Honestly, though, if your stepdaughter is willing to lie for him, she probably knows a lot that you don't know about him already and whatever you may find out to tell her will not make a difference in her relationship to him.

Also, you are in a really tough situation as far
as taking legal action against the guy that is about to marry your daughter. Even if you don't care how it affects your relationship with him, you've got to consider the strain it will put on your relationship with her. Is it worth it?
First, go to intelius.com, do a search for the guy and then do a background check. The background check will turn up just about everything on the guy and even give names and locations of possible relatives. We use this to do background checks at work. They will charge you $50 for the background check.
2nd, file a stolen vehicle report and if there is anything from the background check that is of use and give the police a copy when you file the report.
3rd, after the police report keep following up with the DA and police department both. When you file the police report if your car really is impounded they should be able to find it.
Do not go running to show your step daughter the background check results until you get a fresh stary of the facts about this loser as she knows them and ask some questions you already know the answer to just to see if he has told her the truth, only after this has been done show her the facts because no one wants to admit the have been duped by some loser in a relationship so it is best to get everything fresh and then show her.
Good luck, I hope everything works out well for you and your family.
My neighbor's grandson is on parole. One of the stipulations is that he has a home plan and that means living with his father until his parole is over. Could this be the man's reason for living with his parents?

I don't know anything about cars or Florence, but like someone said you can get a criminal record check for even just 40 or 50 dollars and it seems worth it in this case.

Even cheaper, if you think his crime is in Alabama, you can call the parole/probation officer in the right county, Lauderdale I guess here, and they can tell you if he has a record in this state. Actually, I guess the officer in any county can tell you, but if he's on parole in Lauderdale, this would be the best way to get all the information.
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Originally posted by lynnblount:
Pipl.com provides a lot of information that is hard to find on other search engines. It includes social network pages, public criminal pages, and property tax records (which will probably not help you in this case). Make sure you do a search from any previous states where he may have lived.

Honestly, though, if your stepdaughter is willing to lie for him, she probably knows a lot that you don't know about him already and whatever you may find out to tell her will not make a difference in her relationship to him.

Also, you are in a really tough situation as far
as taking legal action against the guy that is about to marry your daughter. Even if you don't care how it affects your relationship with him, you've got to consider the strain it will put on your relationship with her. Is it worth it?


My stepdaughter and I have never been real close and if she is willing to lie about something like this knowing what kind of problems it may cause me and my husband (financially), then I really don't care what kind of strain it puts on my relationship with her. We are barely making ends meet right now and the money we would have to put out for this vehicle would make a difference. But it's the principal of the situation.... he took advantage of us and she doesn't seem to care...
If the "city" impounded your vehicle as abandoned, then they will have paperwork showing an impound...at least an impound form, if not an incident/offense report. Cut your leg work down and call them first...most local cities use multiple wrecker services for impound on a rotating basis.

Sounds more to me like the fiance' sold your car for scrap metal or parts. If the local cops don't have an impound report on file for it, file a stolen vehicle report. With a stolen vehicle, the cops can check the local salvage yards for the dates in question to see if your car was sold as scrap.

One of the most common causes that keeps individuals from getting their license back after crashes is financial responsibility. If there was a financial judgment against the finance' because of being liable in a crash, he would have to satisfy the debt before he's able to have his license reinstated. IE...he probably had a crash and did not have insurance, and has not reimbursed the victims for their losses.
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Originally posted by Calypso:
Thanks to everyone for their advice. It was very much appreciated.


Like my whole life flashed before my eyes. This sounds just like my ex son-in-law. He made a total mockery of the courts and us. Cost me a lot. Pay off the car is you can, then take him to court. I would seek legal advice from a trusted Attorney. Good Luck and God Bless You.
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Originally posted by lawguy07:
If the car is financed, you should have full coverage insurance. File a theft claim if you can't locate the car. DISCLAIMER: This isn't legal advice, just my personal opinion.


No insurance at all because it had been sitting up for about 2 years not running, so we dropped the insurance. Thanks for advice.
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Originally posted by Calypso:
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Originally posted by lawguy07:
If the car is financed, you should have full coverage insurance. File a theft claim if you can't locate the car. DISCLAIMER: This isn't legal advice, just my personal opinion.


No insurance at all because it had been sitting up for about 2 years not running, so we dropped the insurance. Thanks for advice.


How can you still be paying on this car without INSURANCE??? Lenders REQUIRE insurance to protect THEIR investment. You must owe a family member... Cool
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Originally posted by SHELDIVR:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by Calypso:
[QUOTE]How can you still be paying on this car without INSURANCE??? Lenders REQUIRE insurance to protect THEIR investment. You must owe a family member... Cool


Not if you have proof the car is not driveable, which we did (from 3 mechanics, one suggested by the lending institution). And I've known lots of folks to get full coverage just to get the loan, then drop it down to liability or just completely drop it. Of course, if they are involved in a wreck where the car gets totaled, they still have to pay for the vehicle, plus tons of fines.
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Originally posted by Sassy Kims:
You have a more understanding financier than I have had in the past. Mine added the cost of full coverage insurance to my payment when I let my policy lapse because of unemployment.


That happened to me one time too, Sassy. It was many moons ago when I was young and struggling. The worst thing about it was that the coverage they "tacked on" was like three times more expensive!
File charges against the fiance for car theft. Talk to the DA about this. You might can get some restitution.

Don't support the step daughter until she gets rid of the guy and straightens herself out. Let the real world knock some sense into her. Let her problems be her problems until she's willing to make smarter choices.

Pay off the car as quickly as you can and never finance another one. Cash for cars only.

Best of luck with it.

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