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This story is of the type why my grandmother refused to be put into a nursing home. In fact, she used to work at one in the early 1970's. She used to tell us the horror stories and such. Her final 3 years of her life, she was in a long-term care facility called TLC ran by Michelle Hairrel. They had 24 hour supervision, nurse on staff 24 hours also. She was comfortable and well taken care of. That is what mattered most.
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"According to the state's investigation, the woman, whose age was not released, had refused treatment for her wounds and to be bathed for five days at the licensed 113-bed health-care facility before she was taken Nov. 3 to Deaconess Hospital."

Like it or not, a patient in their right mind has an ABSOLUTE RIGHT to refuse any, every and all treatments or interventions.

She exercised her rights.

If they do not have the right, then the state owns them.

And if the state owns them, they are not free.

If they are not free, they are slaves.

Are we free, or are we slaves?

Besides... maggots only eat dead stuff, not living tissue.

When they would have gotten to living tissue, they would have stopped eating.

So conceivably, they were not harming her. In fact, they were probably helping heal the mess she made of herself by refusing treatment.

Such "therapy" was not uncommon in Korea or Viet Nam for wounded G.I.'s whose wounds were cared for by other inmates with healthcare backgrounds.

Remember... the sky IS falling.

And it falls more when it rains.

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that is horriable.
my mom is in a NH and hate it but this is the best for her at present time.
we talk to her daily and talk to the staff most daily also.
everytime there is a problem or change in her health the have always called me for primmison to take her to ER or DR.
i feel confident in her care.
but i have seen thing in other homes that concrern me.
rlr
S.L. in understand the rights of a patient to refuse treatments. But I also understand the rights of someone in a bed next to them. I have talked with a person that had worked in a nursing home where there was a patient who refused to bath or I should have said be bathed. The body smell became so bad she was,with her MD's orders, given a tub bath with vinigar. And no she was not playing with a full deck and had no family.
This pain is like NO other pain, it is different, and time consuming, and very hard, but it is rewarding,... I took care of my Mom before she died of Cancer... I will take care of my Dad also, and any of my kids/grandkids too.

During the time I took care of my Mom while she was ill with Cancer, I also held down a full time job (still do) .... it can be done, because I know, and when she passed away, I had absolutly no regrets of one moment of lost sleep, or any other thing that came up in this Interim.

A lot can be said for taking care of our 'own'... They took care of us first.

That is one promise I made to my mother, and have made to my Dad... with all the Home Health Agencies we have now, there is no way my Dad or my kids would ever (God Forbid) EVER go to a NH... Not in my lifetime....
We borrow the max on Mom's house and took care as long as we could.
The Nursing staff ran close to 12,000 a month. Her medicine cost 8,000 a month. And we also had a care give who lived with her, costing 3,000 a Month. But when she would no longer eat on her own and required a lift to get her out of bed. We had to go to the NH, but with daily visits from all of us. And talking with the Nursing staff and Dr. regually we fill the care is much better than we were able to give.
I said the same thing you said kind_spirit, and i think your name sayes it all, you seem to have that kindered spirit, wish all was as kind.
we have to sometime let go and that is what i have done, i still get sad at times, but a visit usually cheers me up.
Mother is a very unique person, she still smiles and tells me she is happy, and with all the pain she is in she never complains.
There has to be a special blessing in heaven for people like her.
Thanks for allow me to give her praise to someone who cares.
rlr
Nursing homes are not the perfect answer, sometimes, though, they are the only answer. My father who had a head injury has been a nursing home resident for twenty years. We don't like it, but we had to do it. We simply did not have the knowledge, recources or enough of us to take care of him. We keep a close eye on him, you have to do that...we have had lots of problems along the way, also lots of wonderful people that are willing to help my daddy in any way they can. Most of the problems concerned medication, nursing home personnel tend to "dope up" the ones who act up or make loud noises, whatever. We finally got that ironed out and they cannot even give daddy Pepto Bismol without calling us and asking permission. We have run into a few smartie pants who think they know more than we do, but we just stick to our guns and finally get our way. Sometimes we have had to act "ugly" but this is our daddy and we love him. FYI: the more often you visit and the more informed you are, the better care your loved one will recieve. That is my belief although I am sure there are those who will argue that point. The worst thing is seeing some of the aids who are making minimum wage and just want to put in a minimum of effort. I have seen (many times) them put food in front of a person who is incapable of feeding themselves and just walk away leaving that poor person there, hungry, just looking at the food. Complain!! it's the only way...complain if you see anything that doesn't look right..even if it's not your loved one..
Southern waters you are right on about the more you care the better care. If one is placed in a nursing home then never has family visits,it shows the staff, the family doesn't care. If a loved one HAS to be there the family,imo ,should make visits a priority in their life. A schedule could be made out to insure a family member visits as often as possible. Years ago, my Mom's Mother became to ill for my mom and aunt to care for, so she HAD to be placed in a nursing home. My mom and aunt took turns visiting everyday. She was very well cared for.
I have a great concern for people in nursing homes. My grandmother is in one. She is treated ok, but, her clothes dissappear and her glasses got broken by them and they never replaced them. My Mother visites her everyday. I believe the more family in involved in their familes lives the better off they are. They really need their FAMILIES... Smiler

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