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How do you handle one? There's a waitress at Ruby Tuesday in Muscle Shoals that will not look at you, will not smile, & looks like one miserable human being. She's good at making sure your glass is filled & that you have what you need. You smile, speak or try to be nice, she will totally ignore you. I will ask for another table if I see beforehand that it's her table. My husband will tip her because she gives good service, he doesn't care if she's nice or not. If it was up to me, she would not get a penny.

Would you tip?

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I don't expect or want her to tell me her life story. When you smile at someone, it would be nice if he/she could smile back. If she's dealing with personal issues, she needs to leave them at home when she goes to work. If she can't, she doesn't need to be working with the public. This mad look she wears isn't just a sometime occurrence, it's every time. Any manager or CEO worth his salt tell their employees to greet their customers with a smile & eye contact.

I worked in sales for many years. I had a co-worker that was losing a child to a horrible illness. It was a slow and drawn out death. She couldn't afford to just quite her job so she came to work as much as she could. The owner was very compassionate and allowed her to continue on even though she missed more than most employees and when she was there she could not just leave it at home and she sometimes cried as she worked. 

 

She did her job though and she was good at what she did. 

 

 

Give the girl a break, some people can be perfectly happy yet have a sad face on they cannot help. Some people has a face of many expressions that they can give you all kinds of impressions.

 I know a girl who works at a place I frequent, she is quite aware that she has a mad look on her face when she is serious about her job at hand. If she is concentrating on what she is doing it is there, If she is laughing it is there.

 I know another girl who frequents the same location, she can give all kinds of looks on her face.
She can be a most beautiful woman but she can also be quite unattractive depending on her facial expression.

 Anybody who will show up at work and do their job in a satisfactory manner has my kudos over someone who does not work. If your conscience is more guided by the facial appearance of your server  than the actual service you get, then by all means you should go somewhere else or try to be in a different location than where this person is working.

the word "tip" dates back to the 1600's.. it has always referred to the 'giving of something to another'.. originally used as underworld slang and has since become mainstream.. the recent claims of 'to insure promptness, to insure performance, to insure prompt service' are all fairly new claims.. in the past 20 years or so... just to clear things up.

A tip (my own opinion) is earned by the server and in my mind is not something that is a given.  I realize that servers are paid, for the most part, less than minimum wage and customers are to make up the difference in tips but I fully have no problem in tipping a poor server less than I do a good or great server.  One of the chief problems with our Nation today is the philosophy that teaches that there can be income equality or that everyone is equal.  Fact is that not every is equal and that there are people who work harder and more than others and thus deserve more and better pay and better promotions.  

 

Some workers have greater abilities and performance than others and thus warrant consideration for supervision or advancement to a higher paid position.  That is what leads to incentive and when you remove incentive from the equation then you have some who just will skate along no matter what and others that will perform down to expectations.  A tip to me is something to be achieved and earned and if there is a poor server, for whatever reason, then they don't deserve the same tip as say a great server.

Originally Posted by Jankinonya:

Semi and her opinions... Don't ask questions of it, or have one that differs from hers, or else you MUST be attacking her in some way. 

 

This poor waitress has no idea that she is dealing with someone that demands that much attention. 

 

If the waitress was really rude...well, perhaps she'd had Semi as a customer before?

Originally Posted by direstraits:

A cheerful waitress is nice.  However, TIP means To Ensure Promptness. 

Edward Lloyd opened his coffee house in Tower Street in London in 1688. One  corner of the coffee shop was reserved for ships’ captains where they could  compare notes. Wealthy individuals who frequented Lloyd’s coffee house would  each take a share of the risk of insuring the ships and their cargoes, signing  their names one beneath the other on the policy, thereby being known as  “underwriters”.

http://didyouknow.org/tip/

 

 

TIP -- never, never invest in Lloyd's of London.

Originally Posted by semiannualchick:
Originally Posted by gbrk:

A tip to me is something to be achieved and earned and if there is a poor server, for whatever reason, then they don't deserve the same tip as say a great server.

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I agree. I have noticed that her entire demeanor changes if she has a table of just men. She becomes all smiles & giggly.

 

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A couple of possibilities include young girl that likes men, likes tips or has experienced small or no tips from female customers.

 

I do have a complaint about wait persons in any and all retaurants. I can not stand these bubbly, yacky, yacky, people. If I am having a good day, they can destroy it with their supposedly happy, b/s. If i am ahppy, let me enjoy it without your help. If i am having a bad day; the last thing i want is bubbly people. I will probably give a waitress that gives me good service more than one that gives me happy, happy! Just my nature. "old and ugly"

 I agree with pooh's dad in what he said about a bubbly, yacky, yacky,  supposedly happy b/s waitress/waiter. So I'm going to say it once more. I don't want a waitress/waiter's life history. An acknowledgement of a smile & a greeting in return is showing kindness & is considered rude if ignored.

It's not written in stone, folks, it's just my opinion.

I hope you all have a safe & wonderful Wednesday.

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