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Originally posted by bluesman blues:
A forum member in Tuscaloosa brought this up, and I thought it was an interesting topic. So the holidays are coming fast and you don't feel into it. What things have changed for you and what suggestions to you have for those who have lost family members, oh how do you remember the holidays before a loved one or loved ones have passed away.
You don't survive it you endure it mostly. I'm sorry to hear of any loss for the Holidays only amplify the loss of that loved one as most times that is when Families get together if not at other times of the year. Christmas and Holidays usually are also depressing to many for other reasons as well. If you are a Religious person faith offers us assurance that there is an afterlife and although that loved one is not physically there with us we know that they have transcended into another phase of life and although we can't see them we don't know if they can't see us. Faith is a powerful thing in a persons life and for those that believe then death is not the end of things but a temporary separation in the physical realm.
If you are not a religious person I still would encourage you to seek out friends and acquaintances at a Church of your choosing and participate in several parties where you can meet new friends. Holidays are to be shared and the best way to avoid loneliness or help in the loss of a loved one is to find comfort in the company of people who accept you as a friend and that you can find friendship in the company of.
Again I'm sorry for the loss of a loved one and no one has all the answers but you are not alone and there are many that, like you, seek to find answers sometimes when those answers cannot be found. Share with others and allow others to share with you. Become involved in others lives in helping make the holiday season bright for many who don't have a bright one as it is and in doing so you might just find that you are doing more for yourself by helping others than you are doing for them.