Topic babysitters

I have seen it before but it seems to be getting better here lately . I think everyone is trying to do better now . Life is to short to bicker online . lol
I can bicker with my hubby ,,,and win .

I have no clue what you're talking about. Why don't you just say what you mean?

They had a big sale on clue's just last week at Sears, you should have got yourself one! LOL

J\K I do not want to say names because maybe I'm just putting too much into to something that is not there.

It just seems like a certain person may have a few acceptance issues and just replies back to another member to say "Yeah, me too" or "Ahh poor baby"

Again, just my observation.

I know it's not me ,I dont say Ahh poor baby . lol But I have seen someone else say it . But that person also says a whole lot more too .lol

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Originally posted by FirenzeVeritas:
I know the person you mean, but if that makes the person happy, why not let him/her?

FV, some people are too nice for their own good. You take up for people who would not take up for you.

Advice from a Dutch Aunt: Apologizing for something you haven't done doesn't make you any more a Christian, it makes you a doormat.

I just got a really nice PM from someone on here, so I didn't want anyone to think I didn't like the lady referred to in this post.

I know there're at least two really nice people on here! You two know who you are!

LMAO, where was that sale again? Sear's? I need a clue

Seriously, though, I guess I haven't noticed that. I'm not sure who you are talking about either. It could be me, for all I know. xD

Sometimes I do tend to leave small replies, or I will watch a thread that I've replied on, but not reply until way later. Could that fall into babysitting? I guess it could. hehe

Anyways, if it causes no harm, then I suppose it's not a bad thing. It might seem obsessive, but it might just be a friendly gesture between two posters? I don't know.

I hate getting sick, I miss too much.

~Amanda

I have no idea who y'all are talking about. I've had a belly full of insinuation and innuendo though. I wish people would stop speaking in code. You know what wishing will get you though...not a dang thing.

I have no idea who you are talking about either....unless it's me. I have made the remark "poor baby" before (don't remember who it was to). I don't see anything wrong with that remark.
FV, your remark that you have "concluded the lady has insomnia and the forum helps her pass the time" also seems to be geared toward me because I am on the forum late at night. My husband & I are night owls since he retired, I see nothing wrong with that either. Nothing connected to insomnia at all.
I see others on late at night too, is that not allowed for some reason?

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Originally posted by cjtl1000r:
Do any of you notice certain people who will "babysit" a topic?

For instance a topic is started by member A and member B will reply. After that others will reply and the conversation continues. At times member B will reply many times with very short answers or comments and usually directed toward member A. These comments are NEVER EVER mean or critical in nature but more toward the obsessed feeling.

I really notice this when a certain person starts a topic and this one person almost acts obsesive. I'm not going to give names because like I said, nothing mean is said.

Any way just my observations.

Nothing wrong with observations, I'm sure everyone here makes them at one time or another.
I've seen nothing that seems obsessive on here, but I haven't looked for it either.

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Originally posted by _Joy_:
I have no idea who y'all are talking about. I've had a belly full of insinuation and innuendo though. I wish people would stop speaking in code. You know what wishing will get you though...not a dang thing.

"short answer or comment"
Ditto! No double ditto, Joy!!
Not being obsessive at all, just a strong agreement.

I'm a "poor baby" type person from waaay back.....best done in person while patting the poor baby on the back or shoulder.
And i prefer short replies to a lot of the long ones i read that don't really say anything. Content is more important than word count.

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Originally posted by ShugaPush:
I know there're at least two really nice people on here! You two know who you are!

Out of all the people on this forum, you find only two that are nice people? Interesting.
I think the majority of the people on this forum are very nice.....except for a couple.

I am confused.

Kindred, FirenzeVeritas deleted her post so it's going to leave alot of people confused.

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Originally posted by Taciturn:
Kindred, FirenzeVeritas deleted her post so it's going to leave alot of people confused.

why the heck did she do that?

Hi, I deleted my post because I was afraid it was taken the wrong way. Hope that explains.

As or me personally, if I were a better time manager, I would read every post and reply to each.

It's ok -- Shuga "quoted" her post so it is still there for everyone to read in context. I'm glad Shuga does that -- it helps the threads stay in tact.

CTJL -- I think I know who you are referring too and it has gotten a little better lately. I had the same thoughts a few weeks ago, but just let it go...

Ladies, first let me say I'm sorry if any of you think I was refering to you. As of this point in time the person in question has not replied to this topic. I have had a couple ladies PM me wanting to know if I was refering to them and they also were not the one in question and I told them that. I will not say there names here because I do not feel that is the proper thing to do since it was a PM.

I have been accused of trying to cause friction and most of you know me by now and know that is not my agenda, never has been never will be. Myself and the accuser have spoken, cleared the air, and moved along with no hard feelings.

If you have been personally hurt because if this topic then I apoligise for hurting you. I will not however apoligise for my observation and opinion and neither should any of you. If you want to send me a PM and we can discuss this then it will be more than welcome.

CJ

CTJL -- we are on the same page more often than not apparently.

BTW, I called Golds the other day to inquire about membership. They refused to give me a "roundabout" price...they said I'd have to come in for a "tour". I tried to explain that I'm not gym savvy, but I know what a gym offers and that I had the "join for $1" ad thing. They still refused. So I told her she lost her chance at a customer because I don't deal with "hard-sell tactics" and if you can't give a price over the phone then I have no need of their services.

I think I'll be checking out Anytime -- they gave a price over the phone that was actually less than what I figured Golds would have been and not much more than SouthPeaks.

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Originally posted by cjtl1000r:
I have been accused of trying to cause friction and most of you know me by now and know that is not my agenda, never has been never will be. Myself and the accuser have spoken, cleared the air, and moved along with no hard feelings.
CJ

CJ, since you choose to mention your "accuser" here, then I will go a little further and admit that it was me. I have nothing to hide. I mentioned CJ causing friction in this discussion.
Later, (second PM) I apologized, that the word "friction" was the wrong word for me to use.
I will say now to the forum that I was accused in a PM of being the obsessive person mentioned in CJ's first post. So, I took it to CJ in a private PM as I thought I should so it could be discussed between us & not thru the forum.
Thus, my reason for the PM.

Tac is spot on here with her accessment of how missunderstanding between members should happen. In a PM and not on the forum. Not too long ago a couple of folks had their disagreement on the forum and not a PM so it was out there for all to see.

Tac made the decision to admit she was the accuser and that was her decision after we have settled our discussion. I think we can all learn a leason from her and not be too hasty to take our differances to a PM.

I just want to let everybody know that in my opinion Tac is a stand up person who will keep things between you and her and admit a fault if she has one.

I now have a better appreciation for TAc and her honesty.

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Originally posted by cjtl1000r:
Tac is spot on here with her accessment of how missunderstanding between members should happen. In a PM and not on the forum. Not too long ago a couple of folks had their disagreement on the forum and not a PM so it was out there for all to see.

Tac made the decision to admit she was the accuser and that was her decision after we have settled our discussion. I think we can all learn a leason from her and not be too hasty to take our differances to a PM.

I just want to let everybody know that in my opinion Tac is a stand up person who will keep things between you and her and admit a fault if she has one.

I now have a better appreciation for TAc and her honesty.

Thank you, CJ, I feel the same about you. I feel I have gained a new friend on this forum.
Since my PM had a hint of rudeness, though I didn't mean it to, you were very kind about it & willing to dicuss it with me.
Thank you for that.

Please Mother's be careful about choosing your babysitter and always do a background check. I Hired a babysitter two years ago to keep my little one at home she was recommended by family so I trusted what they said. With in two months after hiring her she stole my credit card with in three days it was scary at how much she had spend and what she had bought. Please I am saying this I dont want other mothers to have to go through all that I Did.

rolltideroll must not have read all the post .lol its not about real baby sitters .lol funny

hahaha that is funny ...

Hi Y'all,

When the topic said baby sitting -- I thought you meant baby sitting. So, I will offer the man's version of baby sitting.

Bye now,

Bill

This is why women dont like to leave their children with their husbands.

Men don't babysit their own children. It's called parenting.

Excellent point Marian. Who ever heard a mother say "I'm babysitting the kids while my husband goes golfing"? But you hear men say "I have to babysit the kids while my wife goes to the store" quite often. What a sad disconnect.

You know that is true, but I will play devil's advocate (not that dads are the devil...hee, hee). Not all dads are like that. I absolutely love to see a dad so in love with his kids. I don't see it as often as I'd like, but it makes me so happy when I do.

I simply would not take my kids to the grocery store. It wouldn't have mattered what he called it, he was doing it. I think he just saw it as life. You want to eat? Well, I'll be back in a little while with groceries. Also, moms need time to themselves just like dads do. You want Momma to remain sane? Well, I'll be back in a little while with my sanity...haha.

I'll tell you who my heart goes out to & that is single parents. God bless single parents. I don't know how they are sane or how they get anything done.

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Originally posted by _Joy_:


I'll tell you who my heart goes out to & that is single parents. God bless single parents. I don't know how they are sane or how they get anything done.

Liquor........LOL....Just kidding. Its hard but without a doubt the most wonderful and rewarding thing I have EVER done. My kids are my heart and even though I didnt plan to be a single mom.......he couldnt have given me a better parting gift......

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Originally posted by _Joy_:
God bless single parents. I don't know how they are sane

Some aren't.

Not that I'm speaking of anyone in particular, mind you... haha!

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Originally posted by SO TIRED OF IGNORANCE:

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Originally posted by _Joy_:


I'll tell you who my heart goes out to & that is single parents. God bless single parents. I don't know how they are sane or how they get anything done.

Liquor........LOL....Just kidding. Its hard but without a doubt the most wonderful and rewarding thing I have EVER done. My kids are my heart and even though I didnt plan to be a single mom.......he couldnt have given me a better parting gift......

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Lol, is that why your screen name starts with "so tired"???

I got thrown into single parenthood, too...but agree that it's wonderful.

It is very hard to get anything done, true. But, I've learned that priorities are so important. When my kids are grown, I doubt they'll sit around and remember how clean the house was or wasn't...but they WILL remember the time I spent with them. I let a lot of things slide to put them first.
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Originally posted by lynnblount:

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Originally posted by SO TIRED OF IGNORANCE:

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Originally posted by _Joy_:


I'll tell you who my heart goes out to & that is single parents. God bless single parents. I don't know how they are sane or how they get anything done.

Liquor........LOL....Just kidding. Its hard but without a doubt the most wonderful and rewarding thing I have EVER done. My kids are my heart and even though I didnt plan to be a single mom.......he couldnt have given me a better parting gift......

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Lol, is that why your screen name starts with "so tired"???

I got thrown into single parenthood, too...but agree that it's wonderful.

It is very hard to get anything done, true. But, I've learned that priorities are so important. When my kids are grown, I doubt they'll sit around and remember how clean the house was or wasn't...but they WILL remember the time I spent with them. I let a lot of things slide to put them first.
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LOL, Yeah, I was prob referring to something my son had pulled that day.......hehe. J/K

I just got the yard cleaned up today- I thought my neighbors were gonna have me evicted. I have to be very orginized to fit everything in, however, I learned what things I could let go very early on.

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Originally posted by Ed@Bama:

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Originally posted by _Joy_:
God bless single parents. I don't know how they are sane

Some aren't.

Not that I'm speaking of anyone in particular, mind you... haha!

Hey, I resemble that remark!!!

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Originally posted by SO TIRED OF IGNORANCE:

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Originally posted by lynnblount:

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Originally posted by SO TIRED OF IGNORANCE:

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Originally posted by _Joy_:


I'll tell you who my heart goes out to & that is single parents. God bless single parents. I don't know how they are sane or how they get anything done.

Liquor........LOL....Just kidding. Its hard but without a doubt the most wonderful and rewarding thing I have EVER done. My kids are my heart and even though I didnt plan to be a single mom.......he couldnt have given me a better parting gift......

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Lol, is that why your screen name starts with "so tired"???

I got thrown into single parenthood, too...but agree that it's wonderful.

It is very hard to get anything done, true. But, I've learned that priorities are so important. When my kids are grown, I doubt they'll sit around and remember how clean the house was or wasn't...but they WILL remember the time I spent with them. I let a lot of things slide to put them first.
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LOL, Yeah, I was prob referring to something my son had pulled that day.......hehe. J/K

I just got the yard cleaned up today- I thought my neighbors were gonna have me evicted. I have to be very orginized to fit everything in, however, I learned what things I could let go very early on.

Kudos to both of you. Of course, I already knew you both rock!

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Originally posted by lynnblount:

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Originally posted by SO TIRED OF IGNORANCE:

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Originally posted by _Joy_:


I'll tell you who my heart goes out to & that is single parents. God bless single parents. I don't know how they are sane or how they get anything done.

Liquor........LOL....Just kidding. Its hard but without a doubt the most wonderful and rewarding thing I have EVER done. My kids are my heart and even though I didnt plan to be a single mom.......he couldnt have given me a better parting gift......

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Lol, is that why your screen name starts with "so tired"???

I got thrown into single parenthood, too...but agree that it's wonderful.

It is very hard to get anything done, true. But, I've learned that priorities are so important. When my kids are grown, I doubt they'll sit around and remember how clean the house was or wasn't...but they WILL remember the time I spent with them. I let a lot of things slide to put them first.
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With me if it can't get done during school hours then it usually doesn't get done...

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Joy: Thank you!!

So Tired of Ignorance: My yard work gets knocked down on the to do list a lot! But, I figure somebody's got to be the designated white trash of the neighborhood, lol. I figure I'm doing all my neighbors a favor by making their yards look so good compared to mine.

Puckerupfrog: Yay for school hours! But it's hard to squeeze everything in before the afternoons, isn't it? When I have an off day it seems like 2:30 rolls around soooo fast.
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