anyone here ever successfully taken back a spouse after you caught them having an affair?...if so, how did you become able to forgive? was your marriage ever the same?
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quote:Originally posted by Gypsee:
anyone here ever successfully taken back a spouse after you caught them having an affair?...if so, how did you become able to forgive? was your marriage ever the same?
quote:Originally posted by NYTrooper:quote:I took him back, after she was killed in a car wreck. And i didn't forgive to make him feel better, i did it to make me feel better and so i could try and put it behind me... but i never forgot. And, no, the marriage was never the same. The trust was never again 100% and "just there" the way it was in the beginning.
quote:Originally posted by ~*~Freebird~*~:
IMO once a cheater always a cheater never to be trusted again.
quote:Originally posted by SHELDIVR:
Many years ago, as a child, I watched as a beautiful dog was shot and killed. This dog was a sheep killer. Sheep killers and cheaters are much the same, they know it is wrong, they know you don't approve, they know they will get caught, BUT once they do it, they will do it again and agsin. Cheaters know it's wrong, they know you don't approve, they know they will get caught, BUT once the do it, they will do it again and again. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Forgive them and move on...
quote:Originally posted by Mrs . Rabbit:quote:Originally posted by NYTrooper:quote:I took him back, after she was killed in a car wreck. And i didn't forgive to make him feel better, i did it to make me feel better and so i could try and put it behind me... but i never forgot. And, no, the marriage was never the same. The trust was never again 100% and "just there" the way it was in the beginning.
" IF " you didnt have anything to say why didnt you leave the thread after you read it ? Instead you got to bash every thread huh . And Salty wasnt even in this one . You slipping or what ?
I think this is jeyboy .
quote:anyone here ever successfully taken back a spouse after you caught them having an affair?...if so, how did you become able to forgive? was your marriage ever the same?
quote:Originally posted by NYTrooper:
Puf, I heard these girls beat you out for your old man.
quote:Originally posted by NYTrooper:
Puf, I heard these girls beat you out for your old man.
quote:Originally posted by Ed@Bama:quote:Originally posted by NYTrooper:
Puf, I heard these girls beat you out for your old man.
If picking on picking on PuF makes you feel so manly, you might wanna try taking off those pantyhose. It might do wonders for your self-esteem.
quote:Originally posted by ^PuF^:
Thank you, Ed, but NYPooTrooper doesn't bother me.
quote:Originally posted by Ed@Bama:quote:Originally posted by NYTrooper:
Puf, I heard these girls beat you out for your old man.
If picking on picking on PuF makes you feel so manly, you might wanna try taking off those pantyhose. It might do wonders for your self-esteem.
quote:Originally posted by readaholic:
PuF, I commend you on your choice and your ability to forgive and go forward. I hope that the second half of that relationship (while never 100% trusting) was a good one for you.
quote:Originally posted by interventor1:
...I would never pick on dear PUF. However, I've removed many a pair of pantyhose (but not from myself) and it did wonders for me.
quote:Originally posted by Gypsee:
thanks everyone....there are young children involved so i want to be able to do everything possible so that they will know i tried...things are looking positive...church involved....but a long time for trust to build...i wouldn't wish this on anyone as it is a hard wake up call when God wants your attention!..i'm just thankful this is something we can fix...perhaps we'll come out stronger than ever ...that is my prayer...thx again.
quote:Originally posted by ^PuF^:quote:Originally posted by Gypsee:
thanks everyone....there are young children involved so i want to be able to do everything possible so that they will know i tried...things are looking positive...church involved....but a long time for trust to build...i wouldn't wish this on anyone as it is a hard wake up call when God wants your attention!..i'm just thankful this is something we can fix...perhaps we'll come out stronger than ever ...that is my prayer...thx again.
I apologize for the hijack.
Do all you can do, but realize sometimes there comes a point when you are better off without someone, than with them...and it's better for children to have one happy parent than two unhappy ones. I hope you and your husband are one of the couples that are made stronger by what has happened.
You, your children, and your husband are in my prayers.
quote:Originally posted by NYTrooper:
Sorry Puf. I will remove my postings. Please accept my Apology.
quote:Originally posted by LMM:quote:anyone here ever successfully taken back a spouse after you caught them having an affair?...if so, how did you become able to forgive? was your marriage ever the same?
My only question is: Why do you WANT them back?