WOMAN PLEASE HELP PLEASE !!!

You need to see the movie or read the book "He's Just Not That Into You" -- it's obvious she is toxic for you...leave her alone...

Dude,
get your cryin done, and find a new woman. The garden tool aint coming back.

Local Psych, Ralph Jones, used to host a Co-dependents anonymous meeting in the Wilson bldg downtown. You'll find people there with similar experiences and a healthy enviornment to air your sorrow. I will caution you that this really isn't the place to put your personal life on display. Anything you write could end up in court or worse.

I wish you the best of luck and am sorry this has happened to you.

I am so sorry...but if she has told you she is miserable, believe her words. It does not help to say "do it for our son". I promise you , you WILL get over this. Let her go and please get help in dealing with your grief. Do this for yourself and for your son. Please get counseling. I am so sorry you are going through this. No amount of pleading will change her mind now. She will turn against you more for it. Please talk to a friend, pastor, counselor. I am sorry you are in such pain!!!

Sipowers, sometimes it takes 6 months to a year to get over someone. Good luck.

I know you must love her by the words you have typed. With that said, love her enough to let her go and be happy. I know it seems like your world has crashed ( I have been through a similar situation like what you are going through). Time heals all wounds. This is true. It has been almost seven years since I was in a situation similar to yours and I was hurt and angry and mad and it took me over five years to not feel "mad" every single time I even heard the name of this person. Now, I wish them all the luck because I allowed myself to focus my energy and anger on myself so I could be happy and make my child happy. I vowed to rip off the rear view mirror and never look back and it worked! The following is a poem that has helped me so much... read it over and over.

There are people who can walk away from you.

And hear me when I tell you this!
When people can walk away from you: let them walk.

I don't want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you,
staying attached to you.

I mean hang up the phone.
When people can walk away from you let them walk.

Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left.
People leave you because they are not joined to you.

And if they are not joined to you,
you can't make them stay.
Let them go.

And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person,
it just means that their part in the story is over.

And you've got to know when people's
part in your story is over so that you
don't keep trying to raise the dead.

You've got to know when it's dead.
You've got to know when it's over.

Let me tell you something.
I've got the gift of good-bye.

It's the tenth spiritual gift,
I believe in good-bye.

It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm faithful,
and I know whatever God means for me to have
He'll give it to me.

And if it takes too much sweat I don't need it.
Stop begging people to stay. Let them go!!

If you are holding on to something
that doesn't belong to you and
was never intended for your life,
then you need to ...LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to past hurts and pains ...LET IT GO!!!

If someone can't treat you right, love you back, and see your worth...LET IT GO!!!

If someone has angered you ... LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge ..
LET IT GO!!!

If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction ...
LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or talents ...LET IT GO!!!

If you have a bad attitude...LET IT GO!!!

If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better...
LET IT GO!!!

If you're stuck in the past and Life is trying to take you to a new level... LET IT GO!!!

If you are struggling with the healing of a broken relationship....
LET IT GO!!!

If you keep trying to help someone who won't even try to help
themselves... LET IT GO!!!

If you're feeling depressed and stressed... LET IT GO!!!

If there is a particular situation that you are so used to handling
yourself and God is saying "take your hands off of it," then you need to... LET IT GO!!!

Let the past be the past.
Forget the former things.

GOD is doing a new thing for 2006 !!! LET IT GO!!!

Get Right or Get Left .. think about it, and then LET IT GO!!!

For the next 60 seconds, stop whatever you are doing, and take a moment to reflect:

Absorb this message into your life. Feel it become part of your thinking and your power. By letting go you are claiming BACK all the power/energy you spent on this other person or obstacle.

Now, when you're feeling a bit clearer, ask yourself a simple question (and ask it often in future):

What is it I have that makes life worth living for?




by T. D. Jakes / edited by B. Tollman

I hope things look up for you soon. Good Luck.

The best way now for you to fix your broken heart is to focas on you. Put your energy into becoming the greatest person ever. Love yourself and all you do and the love of someone else will come to you.

The only person in your lifetime you can control is yourself... it is obvious that after 3 years of being put through a lot,,,, she is moving on...... and so should you....

Just forget about her.... there are plenty out there.... I hope you learned from the relationship how to treat a woman you might be falling in love with..... it is very important....

I can't answer for the wiemen, but whisper to her softly, give her heart a smile, buy her a box of chocolate some roses and perfume. Take her out to a romantic restaurant, candle lights and all. Pay attention to her needs and show her the utmost respect and give her space. Treat her like a lady. Rub her feet and tell her how special she is. And make sure you are kind to her pets, if she has any. Play her some romantic music, her style.

Hope that helps.

Sounds like you've been there, blue's...and learned your lesson

sipowers, I hate to sound cruel, but it's the age old story...she found someone else, she's dumping you...the best thing you can do is find someone else too. You're young, it will probably happen again; but, move on with your life and good luck!

Wanna go git drunk?

Forgot a few other things, always put the toilet set down, pick up your clothes, listen to a Shania Twain's song RE: Link and if that fails, listen to some of the wimiem late at night on the Tuscaloosa chatters, they will tell you like it is RE: Link and learn to stay out of the dog house.

Please send money for this advice, I don't take checks.

Now have you learned.

Forgot the TV remote give her that to.

Never compromise yourself to make someone else happy. Love is a 2 way street, and you both must travel the same path in order for it to work. This is a piece of advice I had to learn the hard way!

I'm curious why you would even want her back?

The best way to get over someone is to find someone else...

let me throw out a nickles worth of free advice. in your post you told her "you had changed". so obviously you know there is a problem and what it is.
when i was in this same frame of mind about 5 years ago i made this decision. i threw myself at work. i wanted my every minute occupied. i worked out. i just worked. i went no where. i cooked at home. i just didn't want to be around people. this lasted about a year. in this time i also found i had saved an amazing amount of money. LOL. then i just became accustomed to living this way. after 5 total years i OWN my house. three cars a harley and travel quite often with the most wonderful bunch of friends a human could ask for. you TRUE friends will shine in this time of your life. i also learned to do more for my fellow man. i guess what i am telling you is: YOU WILL NEVER MAKE SOMEONE ELSE HAPPY IF YOU ARE NOT HAPPY WITH YOURSELF! take time off from the whole dating scene. spend some time inside yourself. learn who you are again. learn to be YOU!! and feel free to PM me for a free meal at any place you choose. my treat. and maybe after a while a night of womanizing and general skirt chasing. hehehe. just remember. the women on here have given you some GREAT advice. after all they are testosterone deprived and can think like ..... well WOMEN. listen to them and just take a walkabout inside your own mind. set you own path and find you again. when you are happy with yourself finding a significant other will not be a problem. and who knows just maybe and i mean maybe if you can find the person she fell in love with to begin with you just might stand a chance. what you are not going to like is seeing her WITH someone else. i solved this problem by NEVER seeing her. LOL. just put your nose to the grindstone and work it out in YOUR MIND. that is the only place this situation has such a deep impact. think about yourself!!!! and hang in there you got friends here!!!!

listen ----> Link

Great advice Bald Guy!

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Originally posted by FloTownDown08:
Never compromise yourself to make someone else happy. Love is a 2 way street, and you both must travel the same path in order for it to work. This is a piece of advice I had to learn the hard way!

So right, FloTown, if you ain't happy, you ain't gonna make anyone else happy.

That is great advise BaldGuy and a very nice offer from you - I think he should take you up on it!!!!!!!!!!

Let TBG help you thru it!! We all need friends! You will get thru it - just got to get your mind off of it - I promise and will be praying for you!